I Get Stood Up Once A Week

The art of waiting

We tend to think about rituals as something ancient or religious, but creating rituals as a way to make space for ourselves and what we want can be both deeply meaningful and transformational.

Recently I decided to invent a ritual as part of a 9 Month No Dating Vision Quest and I hope that in reading about how I’m doing it, you’ll become more open to inventing a ritual of your own.

Wait Night Date Night

I named the ritual I’m inventing Wait Night Date Night Basically I put on nice clothing, buy a flower, and go sit in the parking lot of nice restaurant for an hour and practice waiting.

I got the idea for it after watching a video by a friend and coach Kendra Cunov.

She runs a program called the No Man Diet and she shared that women in her program often noticed that they didn’t even have space for an ideal partner to arrive even if they wanted them to.

So they started making room for what they were looking for.

They slept on one side of the bed, they fixed a nice dinner and set an extra place setting, and they wrote letters to their future partners.

All as a ritual of creating space for what they wanted.