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Love Is Heartbreak
To love fully is to be broken open.
George Carlin says “when you get a pet, you’re purchasing a small tragedy.” Because your beloved furry friend (if you’re lucky) will die before you do. And while that may seem like a dark or depressing thought, the truth of it teaches about love is vital.
Love inevitably leads to heartbreak. No matter how hard you try or how careful you are with your heart, it will be broken. And not just because even lifelong loves are separated by death, or because we’ve been sold an impossible fairy tale about romance, but because heartbreak and love go hand in hand.
To love fully is to be broken open. To risk it all is to be inside of losing it all.
Yet most of us play defense when we play for love. We long for romance but fear getting dropped and crushed.
We look for red flags, we open up slowly, we try to make a list to get the right person and avoid the wrong person.
We defend our hearts and we seek to free our hearts and we end up tied in knots as a result.
How can we possibly hope to do something like love.
Something that requires flexibility, creativity, courage, and faith.
If we are unwilling to allow our hearts to be seen.
