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The Best Coaching Sessions Are Boring
Why Slow Coaching Is Good Coaching
Don’t get me wrong. I love it when a session with a client is full of emotion. Maybe they burst into tears and are on their growth edge, or they are so fueled up with energy that they cannot wait to take on a new challenge. If I’m honest the best coaching sessions — the ones that have the most lasting impact — are the boring ones. But this is hard for most coaches to understand, especially new coaches.
The difference between swings and homeruns.
If you want a truly masterful coach you’ll likely be impressed by their ability to cause big tectonic shifts with relative ease. In the world of coaching, you might call these home runs.
They are:
- The questions that crack a client open
- The reframes that shift perspective in a big way
- The words of appreciation that open a client’s heart
I love home runs. I remember watching coaches like Rich Litvin, or Steve Chandler, or Michael Neil, or Byron Katie and many others. And being blown away by their home runs.
And I remember going out and trying to replicate them.
I’d ask BIG QUESTIONS
I’d stare intently at the client willing them to cry
I would pluck on…
